To Online Date Or Not.....That is The Question
Apparently I a missing out on a new-ish fad. Online dating. What use to be taboo is now cliche, everyone is meeting online these days. I tried it a few times with out much success, for the following reasons:
1) I am not good at describing myself at all.
Yes,I realize everyone says that but I truly think I can't describe myself. I always ask my friends to do it for me. Otherwise my personal description would read like this: "Walking Contradiction-loves heels and big trucks, action movies and make-up. Smart sometimes, tries to be funny. " See my point, absolute disaster.
2) I think I am more presentable in person.
Though I write this blog, its my form of therapy- I don't have to worry whether someone is going to like it or me. I am not sure that the stuff I write here would have me beating men off with a stick. The exact oppisite really, they would be concerned about becoming blog fodder. I am an expressive person and e-mailing is the form of media that doesn't shows that.
3)The result I had from prior tries makes me weary.
It was like The good, the bad and the ugly. And I think its in direct relation to items #1 and #2 above.
But it seems that despite my last foray into online dating, things have changed. Dr.Phil now presides over Match.com, giving us tips on how to date. Eharmony has a 29 dimension personalty test that claims to find us our true loves. Not to mention that other 9 million sites aimed at helping us find the right person.
What ever happened to meeting in the produce eisle, at a bar, or standing in line for coffee? Does everyone hide behind their computers so much that online dating has replaced meeting people the old fashion way?
Tell me your thoughts
posted by Liz @ 12:57 PM
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4 Comments:
I just ended my eharmony subscription. It was a grueling personality test and yet I still dont think it was that accurate. My matches were ok but nothing great - The matches from the states seemed better but I live in Canada. I got quite a few matches while my friend hardly got any. She even got matched with divorced men with kids when she specifically asked not to. She also got a fake match that said junk? I think and it was just a bunch of letters no words! (and they say they screen the applicants?!) And my gfs and I and one other friend of a friend all got matched with the same guy! (we are totally different) and he requested to talk to us all and then never responded. So - just like match.com there may be some fake matches that are only "fishing" for you to sign up! You can do the whole application and see your matches - but you dont have to sign up if you dont talk to them. I guess it all depends on what you are looking for too - there are so many different sites that cater to different ppl. WE didnt have any luck with Eharmony. But I guess online dating is worth a try. Be careful and good luck!
You will find the good, the bad and the ugly online. Unfortunately, in my experience more of the bad and ugly. I don't care what the guys on there say they are just looking for the hookup. I went on a few dates with a guy I found out was married (when his wife IM'd me and asked me to no longer contact him - I was GLADLY!)
I've done the online dating thing for the past two springs and last year literally went out with 18 guys to no avail, not one was a fit! I'm holding out hope that I'll meet my Mr. Right another way someday soon! Let us know what you decide.
madeindade and moi- welcome and thank you for your insight. I tried eharmony for awhile and their "personality" test, wasn't accurate for me either.
Vixen- you nailed it on the head, that is my one worry, the level of honesty or lack there of.
I'm still not into the online dating sites, but that doesn't mean I'm not into online dating. I think for a lot of folks we use those social network sites like friendster and myspace to meet people, without the stigma of paying a fee and filling out an online profile to find our match. People meet on websites all the time, so if you're really not feeling Match.com, E-harmony or their equivalents, join the Friendster/Myspace crowd and then you can tell people that the only reason you emailed that really hot guy who was on the friend list of a friend of a friend was because you had a "mutual friend" or some other b.s. reason like that.
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